It was another one of those days. One I had experienced too often as I was faced with challenges that seemed to have me cornered with nowhere to escape. Mind racing a million miles an hour, energy extremely low and caving in to the desire to pack it in for the day and just nap the overwhelming feeling of failure away. I jumped out of my car, and with ipad in hand trekked my 6’6″ frame up the stairs to my apartment for refuge from the world that seemed to be against me for the day. I changed out of my suit into basketball shorts and shirt as if it was 10:30 movie time. Only there was one problem, it was only 11:30 in the morning. I must admit, cold calling in a crowded industry, feeling overwhelmed by my own high service standards that seemed to be too much at the moment. Stick a fork in me, my day was done! What I did next was something I didn’t expect but since returning from Tony Robbins’ UPW event 60 days prior, I had learned some strategies that could help me avoid my typical 72 hour depression that I typically experience during times like this. Here’s what I did that helped me get back to work in a refreshed mindset in under 30 minutes:
- Get Real: I decided to take inventory of what was bothering me and asked myself various questions about what the real challenges and opportunities are around what I was facing. As I wrote these things down on paper, it seemed like the pain I felt internally landed on the paper where I could review it in a way that was simpler than trying to address 4 or 5 problems in the same instance.
- Empowering Narratives: I then began to create positive, empowering outcomes to what I perceived to be challenges. Questions like “What’s positive about the challenges I am having?” or “How can I structure my life to eliminate these challenges?” This helped me realize that challenges are learning opportunities not opportunities to shutdown.
- Gratitude: I then took inventory of what is going really well in my life right now and began to reflect on all of the positive adjustments I’ve made in my life since attending UPW as well as all the opportunities I have at my fingertips right now in my life. This reduced the emphasis on the challenges that seemed to temporarily blind me of all of the great things going on in my life. As I went through this exercise I began to be grateful about my desire to not pack it in for the day and was proud that I wasn’t quitting for the day.
- Priming Session: The next thing I did was walk though a guided meditation exercise by Tony Robbins called “priming”, a series of exercises both mental and physical that are designed to change your physiology. During this breathing exercise, I was encouraged to think about 3 things I was incredibly grateful for and 3 things I am excited to accomplish. This continued to move me into a better mental state to perform and attack my day.
- Dance: It’s no secret to those that know me that I LOOOOVE music! So I capped off my session by listening and dancing to some of my favorite music! After one song I was back in the driver seat of life and ready to get back to it!
At the end of this day, I was so proud of how I handled myself. I learned that its important to recognize that problems WILL come up as it’s part of life and growing as a leader. The key is to have a plan for how we will address problems before they show up. The second thing I embraced during this process was that pain is natural but suffering is a choice. Regardless of what happens, I don’t need to let it ruin my day, week, month, year, or life, and you don’t need to let it ruin yours either!
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